Some dude from yahoo answers had a cool question. Now, its obvious he hasnt taken my secret quiz, but ignore that, and focus on his question, and how I answer it.

Question:

Dating Tips, girls (16) help? Ok this year i have my yr 10 prom and I kind of want to set an impression to others that I can bring a date. Im a relaxed guy at school and dont really engage in conversation but rather listen. My friends think ive never had a gf but actually Ive had plenty of girls which kind of hung out if you no what I mean but seriously those were girls which came to me Ive never went for a girl myself.

I have a few questions after todays experience because Im clueless.
1. How do I begin a conversation during class (I sit in a seating plan next to girls all the time)
2. When a girl stares at you what do you do (I turn away so we dont get embarassed.
3. Do girls like guys who brag their looks (I have a few friends who always have a laugh over their muscles which are small)
4. Should a guy ask the questions or let the girl speak up?
5. What are some flirt tips because I got none and I lost my jokes years ago (I used to be a comedian)
Also I dont no if im ugly or not but its not my issue right now but are there any tips besides get a haircut because I agree on you guys

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My answer:

1. It seems to me as though you have a lack of confidence with women and are generally somewhat shy. The issue is not that you don’t know how to begin a conversation with the girls that sit next to you. The issue is that you are probably afraid to do it even if I gave you the best method right now. So, start easy, ask them anything small, and build up from there. Or even better, tease her or them about something.

2. You keep looking in her eyes until she looks away first. Handle the tension.

3. Girls don’t like guys bragging about anything. It’s so much better when you don’t mention your quality and she finds out about them by herself.

4. Well, both is okay, but it’s less work when you ask her the questions and she talks and talks then. But, the crucial thing is to ask very interesting questions like “Hey, do you feel that men today don’t understand women?” , instead of the typical boring questions like “Where do you live, do you have a cat, etc.”

5. You look okay. Only get a haircut if it’s your style. Don’t be a lemming and have the same style which everyone has. Develop your own specific style. An example is the look of a Latino lover combined with the look of a cowboy.

About the flirting tips, I can only tell you that as you get generally more confident with women, you will develop your own jokes. Flirting with women is essentially teasing and being playful with them.

Now go out there, find some articles or books which talk about being more social and confident in general.

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